Introduction
Generally as children grow their demands decrease and they start recoiling in their own circle. Parents have to look after younger children and spend more time with them but as the children grow responsibility starts decreasing. Moreover, when children are around 18 to 20 years old they shift out of their parent’s homes and start searching their houses.
Occasionally though it so happens that some circumstances force children to be stuck with their parents. It is always fine that children stay with their parents as long as they would want but parents need their own privacy too. Hence it is always good to set some boundaries which would not only enable the children to have a comfortable stay but also facilitate the parents to enjoy their house and their own privacy. Moreover when adult children living home the moments are to be enjoyed because who knows when the time comes and the birds fly away from their nest.
History
The major clash in between parents and children living home is the timings of the children reaching home. A mutual conclusion should be reached in between the parents and children and a time should be set like around 9.00 P.M. In this way the parents are not worried about the late hours kept by children and the children also get to have their freedom. Moreover a weekend allowance is always a good idea for the children living home to stay out. But in this case a separate key can be provided to the children in order not to disturb parent’s routine.
Features
Secondly, an adult child living home is bound to have many friends. The friends are bound to visit the adult child. Many parents interfere in the company the child keeps and rightly so. Hence many pre set rules help the parents as well as the children to get along on this issue. The boundaries in this case can be set as per the convenience of both the sides. Like, for example parents can object to some friends who in their viewpoint are bad company and are a danger to the house as well as to their children. Moreover another complexity arises due to the friends of opposite sex and the relationship of the adult children living home with them. This often differs from house to house and the amount of liberty and provision can be well discussed beforehand.
Expenses of the adult child often may cause a minor problem in the case of grownups. If the child has no income and is settling in a new job or has no job then the child should be encouraged to earn for him as this is the way to make him/her independent and go out and fetch his own living.
Thus all in all the rules vary from house to house and different issues are prevalent in different abodes. But some basic criteria still remains the same which is taken care of in the above article.
Tips and Comments
- Adult children have to learn to be independent so help them
- Adult children living home with their parents should follow some rules
Children are like birds when they grow up they find their own nests but till then it is good to cherish them.
